Groups for Men: Intimacy, Sex and Men

WHAT HAPPENS IN THE GROUP:

  • Experience relief that you are not alone in pain or fear

  • Explore how others respond to you and why

  • Work through self-limiting behaviors and patterns that are evoked “in the moment”

  • Practice new behaviors and skills

WHAT IS GROUP LIKE?

  • In your pre-group consultations we co-create a road map of your work in the group. The map may change over time, as do you.

  • You are encouraged to put your thoughts and feelings into words—in the moment. Trusting the group and “stepping in” can feel risky and vulnerable and will be an important part of your work in the group.

  • Developing this capacity and building trust with others and the group takes time.

  • Expect, accept, and respect disagreements and lack of closure—just like real life! EXCEPT with new tools to slow the process down and create alternative, progressive outcomes.

  • Be willing to experience and discuss feelings of discomfort—as you develop new ways of working with others using emotionally progressive communication.

ABOUT THE FACILITATOR: I am a trained, experienced, Certified Group Psychotherapist (AGPA) and passionate advocate for the transformative power of group work. I continue to consult and study in both the Bay Area and New York City, including the Modern Analytic School/Center for Group Studies. I have completed trainings and seminars with the American Group Psychotherapy Association (AGPA), Northern California Group Psychotherapy Society (NCGPS).

PROBLEM: The majority of men in the US were taught men should figure out their personal problems on their own without asking others for help.* This approach creates isolation, depression, shame, and loneliness.

SOLUTION: Group therapy explores how men relate to anger, conflict, intimacy, healthy dependency, and sex (to name a few.) In doing so, men find they have more confidence, resilience, and awareness to pursue meaningful connection and change in their lives.

Led by a trained, experienced group leader, the process provides a unique, dynamic, and sometimes challenging opportunity to explore who you are and how others see you.

A 1:1 consultation is required so that we can clarify the work you wish to address in the group and how it might be supported by the group. There are no drop-ins.

Self-defeating behaviors and beliefs can get in the way of achieving relationships, intimacy, meaningful sex, and connection.

Often these behaviors show up as using apps instead of connecting, porn, compulsive sexual behavior, serial dating, or serial "not dating." Maybe you just feel lonely even though you "have everything" (according to those around you!)

The focus is on expressing thoughts and feelings that members have towards and about each other. This invites honesty, risk-taking and intimacy. In group, members reenact and experiment with the patterns that cause them distress and undermine relationships. 

New patterns are developed and integrated that allow you to create satisfying and exciting connection--an opportunity to explore and improve all aspects of your life. This is a long-term group for men seeking connection with others and themselves.

*from the study "THE MAN BOX: A Study on Being a Young Man in the US, UK, and Mexico"; Brian Heilman - Gary Barker - Alexander Harrison. Unilever, Axe, Promundno. 2017